Anger - Keep Calm

Unfortunately, it is easy to get angry. Someone speaks to you in a bad way, and that´s it, the heart races and the blood pumps through our body preparing for a fight, literally, the blood goes to our arms and hands to hit the attacker.

Every time someone talks to me in a bad way it affects me, of course even more when the agression is more profound than a bad way of speaking, not only with anger towards that person, but I also feel really angry with myself for letting others disturb me. Why the unbalance of someone else has the power to break us?

When I am in a good day, more balanced internally, towards a careless and aggressive response from another person, I take a deep breath and try to provide something positive to that person, affect him or her for good, with a genuine smile. But obviously I not always succeed.

The thing is to work on making conscious, every day, that we should be able to remain in our place, not letting others drag us into negativity, and even more, every time we meet someone in a negative place, take it as an opportunity to help him/her, and improve our environment.

I know it´s not easy at all, but the exercise itself is worth it. 

Intro

I´ll introduce myself. I´ve always liked meeting people. My mom decided she wanted to spend with me my first years of life, and did not want to take me to a kindergarten until I was about 4 years old. But around the age of 2, I felt it was time for me to meet other children, and as she told me, I asked her very firmly to take me to a kindergarten. My demand seemed sweet and funny to her, but she just left it like that, and stuck to her plan. But apparently this 2 year old girl was very sure of what she wanted, and one day, walking to the park, she ran off into a kindergarten. That day my mom understood that I had a social need and that beyond her desire, being part of a community of peers, was vital for me.

A school and a high school later, I faced the moment many young people do: decide what to study. I had always been good at math, physics, chemistry, but felt that a career in any of these areas would not fulfill "something ", a something I still cannot explain yet.

I ended up studying communication. At that time it seemed crazy to "waste" my scientific capabilities and study something that even took me up at first. But at this point in my life it does not seem like such a casual choice.

I graduated at the age of 24, I was in a stable relationship and had a good job. My life was “on track”. I worked tirelessly for 5 years, I was promoted to good job positions before I was 30, but was working an average of 11 hours per day, more than two years without taking a vacation, I got gastritis, and the worse thing was that I spent years in which my day consisted in being in front of a computer. Me, that same girl that ran toward others.

Something happened between that child that knew her needs so well, who above all loved the interaction with others, and the alienated adult that spent 12 hours a day at a computer.

Today I am traveling around the world, and walking a path of self-knowledge, analysis of different life choices, comparing the life that I once saw as obvious, understanding that it is one of many options, only that did not know or did not consider these options as such.